Love as Asset or Liability-A Cold Calculating Reality

Life is a hard, cold, uncaring and often brutish thing. A friend, in frustration, once said to me that if he had been interviewed and asked whether or not he wished to be born, and was advised, before such interview, about the perils of life, he would have chosen not to have  been born. Fortunately none of us had that privilege. I suppose if such things were possible, we may have had the privilege of selecting not only whether to be born, but also our country of birth, our parentage and  perhaps many other things, and life would have been, for many of us, we think, kinder than it has been.
 Most of us can, however, chose our lovers; the people we marry or become intimately involved with possibly for the balance of our lives. It is important that such a person be an asset and not a liability.
 The person we choose to be with might make us richer or poorer, might contribute to our development or our demise, could make us better off financially and otherwise, or turn us into near paupers. Such things are vitally important. Love is simply not enough. Those days are long gone. Love is fine, but if the person we chose brings nothing to the table, yet takes everything from it,then at some time, love is going to be placed under great strain and would not be able to exhale. The person may not actually bring financial gain or benefit from the inception of the relationship, but should be interested in doing, so and aught to possess some level of potential to, and interest in personal self-development either through education, acquisition of a skill or some other growth process in effort to make the relationship and all it will require increasingly lighter.
 Life is not perfect and bad things do happen, but life also has enough coincidentally placed gaping holes, even in bad times, for us to see our way through  to some distance ahead.
 But when we hook-up with someone purely on the basis that the person causes us to tingle when he or she is around, we may find ourselves able to understand that there is a way to  climb out of the sticky mess that we are bound to encounter, yet if the person we chose is a liability instead of an asset, we may be forced to remain stuck in a hole strenuously trying to prioritize love.